“You Did Nothing”: Why I Walked Away After 30 Years of Marriage

“When I battled depression during menopause and didn’t recognize myself in the mirror, you told me to ‘cheer up.’ You did nothing.”

His eyes flicked away, then back to mine. “You never told me.”

“Oh, I did,” I said quietly. “I told you when I begged for your help, when I asked for therapy. I told you when I curled up beside you on the couch, longing for a kiss, and you barely noticed. I told you with every disappointed sigh, every dinner eaten in silence.”

“You thought everything was fine because you were fine. But I wasn’t.”

Love Isn’t About Not Failing — It’s About Trying

Zack sat with his head in his hands, repeating one phrase: “But I didn’t know.”

That was the heart of it. He didn’t know because he never asked. He didn’t see because he never looked. Love isn’t just about not cheating, or paying bills on time. It’s about showing up, every day, in small ways.

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