When Helping Hurts: A Grandmother’s Lesson in Boundaries, Love, and Letting Go

But the more I sat with it, the more I realized: sometimes, even good intentions can feel heavy to someone who’s struggling.

Helping too much can come across as hovering. Generosity without space can feel like pressure. And what I saw as love, she may have seen as too much involvement.

This wasn’t about blame. It was about balance. And we were off-balance.

The Courage to Speak Gently

I didn’t want to carry resentment, and I didn’t want our relationship to suffer in silence. So, I asked her if we could sit down and talk.

It wasn’t easy.

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