Becoming a grandmother is a gift, but it doesn’t erase who you are as a person. Love shouldn’t mean sacrificing every piece of your time and energy. Boundaries don’t make you cold; they make your affection genuine.
If there’s one lesson I’d offer to every parent and grandparent, it’s this:
Family help should come from gratitude, not guilt.
When I look at the twins now, I see two little faces that remind me why I spoke up: because I want to be the kind of grandma who shows them that love can be warm and strong at the same time.
And the next time someone asks if I’m the “built-in babysitter,” I’ll smile and say, “No — I’m the grandma who finally learned to say no, and that’s how I can love them even better.”
