She may not tell you everything about her past, but the way she talks about her feelings is telling.
She’s emotionally literate — able to name what she feels, explain where it comes from, and set healthy boundaries without fear of pushing people away.
- She might say, “I’m feeling overwhelmed right now, and I need space to process.”
- Or, “I’m not comfortable with that kind of joke — it reminds me of something I’ve experienced.”
She doesn’t play games. She doesn’t leave you guessing. That’s because she’s done the emotional work. She’s likely been through relationships where she didn’t speak up — and paid the price for it.
She’s learned to protect her peace without punishing others. And though it might take time to earn her trust, when she opens up, it’s real, grounded, and honest.
3. She Notices the Subtle Things Most People Miss
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